Lara Shriftman is co-author of Party Confidential, Party Confidential: New Etiquette for Fabulous Entertaining
Hate the thank-you note? We'll make your job a bit easier by laying it out, word for word. All you have to do is fill in the blanks!
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Dear/ Darling/ Dearest/ Hello! (recipient's name),
Thank you for the lovely/ amazing/ adorable/ handomse/ stylish/ exciquite/ funky (enter type of gift)
I look forward to using/ wearing/ displaying/ enjoying (enter gift again) for years to come/ at the holidays/ this summer/ everyday.
Can't wait to see/ meet/ talk/ catch up/ visit/ you at (location or time) at the party/ wedding/ during the holidays/ after the party/ at the water cooler/ at dinner next week.
Sincerely/ Warmly/ Fondly/ Love/ Cheers/ Best,
(sign your name)
Thank you for the lovely/ amazing/ adorable/ handomse/ stylish/ exciquite/ funky (enter type of gift)
I look forward to using/ wearing/ displaying/ enjoying (enter gift again) for years to come/ at the holidays/ this summer/ everyday.
Can't wait to see/ meet/ talk/ catch up/ visit/ you at (location or time) at the party/ wedding/ during the holidays/ after the party/ at the water cooler/ at dinner next week.
Sincerely/ Warmly/ Fondly/ Love/ Cheers/ Best,
(sign your name)

Here’s the no-brainer formula behind all successful thank-you notes.
- Handwrite it, even if you don't have the best penmanship (on stationery is best).
- Don't worry about length. Brevity is the soul of a note! But no one liners.
- Identify the reason you're thanking someone. Write "the fruitcake was delish!" even if the only thing that ate it was the garbage disposal.
- Say something about how the gift makes you feel or what you'll do with it (i.e., "That Warhol catalog looks fabulous on my coffee table. Now, where are m fifteen minutes?").
- Make a reference to seeing that person soon (i.e., "Looking forward to seeing you soon!")
- Be aware of how to sign off at the end of the note. If you're friends by not close enough to use the word "love," just draw a happy face or write "xoxo" to stand for hugs and kisses. The phrase "best," "all my best," or "cheers" is a casually cool ending for friendly acquaintance, work "friends," and people you don't know well but would like to. "Respectfully," and "regards" work for anyone you have a formal relationship with.
- Include your full return address, especially if you don't know the recipient well.













