The usual response to my “situation” typically includes a gasp, a “WHAT?!” and other expressions of sheer horror. And what is so scandalous about me that warrants this reaction?
It’s not because I’m a martian or that I don’t know who Justin Bieber is - It’s because I am a perfectly happy, perfectly single, 28-year-old Valentine’s Day virgin.
To this day, I have yet to have a special someone to mark this romance-filled day with. Well--other than myself--that is.
How has this happened? It’s a combination of being perpetually single, not desperate to be in a relationship and a little bit of a personal choice. Most of my 20s thus far have mostly been centered on one thing: me. Finishing school, starting a career, moving to Manhattan - all were goals that didn’t involve a guy or a relationship.
I’ve met many single women who find themselves solo during Valentine’s Day and face this time of year with a bit of jealousy, rage and resentment towards couples, love and anything V-Day. I, on the other hand, have adopted a more unconventional single girl’s way to mark this occasion. By fully embracing Valentine’s Day and celebrating myself, my family and my friends!
I don’t let my single status get in the way of being wrapped up in all the love that’s in the air. So each year, I make it a point to find a positive way to mark the day- pints of ice cream, Chinese take-out and rom-com marathons not included.
Some ways I celebrate include:
Lookin' good: Dressing up for work, putting on an extra layer of mascara and facing the day with my hot single self.
Planning a special meal: Fixing myself a nice dinner and eating off of my good plates. Saving nice dinnerware for just special occasions is a travesty. Any day of the year is a good day to treat yourself well. Valentine’s Day is no exception, so enjoy a nice home cooked meal, by yourself or with friends, on your good plates. I’ve learned how to stop being lazy, stop ordering take-out, and using real plates like an adult.
Mailing loved ones Valentines: I strategically mail Valentines to my mom and friends to arrive right on V-Day. I usually include a lovey-dovey card and the absolutely expected and required piece of chocolate. If I’m feeling extra cute, I’ll craft my own Valentines for a personalized touch.
By celebrating my Valentine’s Day virginity, I’ve learned how to be content with my singledom during a time when it seems like everyone is married or in relationships. It’s easy to feel like I’m the only single person out there! But by learning how to love myself and those important to me, I know I’ll be ready for when Mr. Right finally shows his face.
Note to my future husband: You better like Valentine’s Day.