Comments for I Do Over http://www.celebrations.com/i-do-over Turning Disaster Weddings into Dream Weddings Tue, 31 Jan 2012 21:11:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 Comment on Share Your Story by Sarah Armstead http://www.celebrations.com/i-do-over/?page_id=194#comment-220 Sarah Armstead Tue, 31 Jan 2012 21:11:31 +0000 http://www.celebrations.com/i-do-over/?page_id=194#comment-220 When my husband and I met, we were both going through military training. I had been very sheltered growing up... sheltered to the extent that my mother had already made plans for me to marry a family friend (who had shown no interest in me at all... the whole arrangement had only been between my mother and his.) SO, when I fell head over heels for my dream guy (literally... I had a dream about him - his face exactly - back when I was about 10 or 11), there was a whole lot of strife from my family. When I graduated from my training before he did from his, I went to my first duty station, hoping that he would end up close by... He didn't... BUT before he left to go overseas, he made it a point to go, by himself (since I couldn't get approved for leave), to meet my family and stay with them for a couple weeks, trying to make a good impression. All to no avail... but, he still asked my father for my hand in marriage. Not really getting an answer, and not daring to ask my mother, he decided to propose anyway... Shortly after our engagement, he was informed that he would be getting sent to Iraq on deployment. I was scared. It was hard enough having a fiance' across the ocean, I didn't want to know what it would be like having one in a war zone. So, in spite of my mother's arguing, and friends of the family (most of whom I hadn't heard from in years) calling to tell me what a huge mistake I was making, I told him to take leave, fly out to meet me, and we would go to where his parents lived and get married. There was no way I was going to let him go to Iraq without being married to me! (Not very logical, but since when does love have anything to do with logic?) So he flew out. I called my family to give them one last chance to be a part of our special day, but they refused. So he and I drove 18 hours to his parents to get married there... His mother mostly did the planning for me... we got married in a bed and breakfast... the honeymoon suite was gorgeous! the chaple where the ceremony took place? Not so much... I didn't get any say in any of it... Everything was very tacky. My mother in law even wore hot pink, baggy pantaloons to the event! And the part I hated the most was the fact that I had sprained my ankle pretty badly the week before, and because I had no time or money to alter the dress, I had to wear 5 inch heels (I can't walk in heels with a good ankle... forget about a sprained one!) So my father in law was the only one available to walk me down the aisle. Before the ceremony, I pulled the minister aside, and begged him NOT to ask who gives me away because my father wasn't there, and, since I had only met him 3 days prior, I really didn't feel my father in law had any right to give me away... But... I'm sure you guessed it... As soon as we got to the alter, the minister asked the question, and my father in law's natural response was "Her mother and I do." *sigh* The only thing I could think at that moment was "If my mother were here right now, and heard you say that, she would be ringing your neck!" After the ceremony, we all headed back to his parent's house... Along the way he, his sister and I stopped at a local burrito place and picked up food for everyone. When we got to his parent's we all sat around the living room eating burritos and trying not to breathe in too much of my father in law's cigarette smoke, then cut into a walmart sheet cake from the "day old" discount shelf in the bakery section. And that was my wedding day... The magical day I had been dreaming of since I was 5 years old... I cried when my husband and I were alone after the ceremony... When he asked me what was wrong, I had to tell him honestly: "It's supposed the be the most wonderful day of my life! And the only good thing I got from this whole day is you!" That's when he promised me that one day, for a milestone anniversary, he would give me the wedding of my dreams. A wedding where all my friends and family are around to join in the celebration. One where my father walks me down the aisle, and where the girls (including my mother in law) are wearing pretty dresses, and where naked babies with wings and arrows and ugly crucifixes are NOT allowed! So I have been planning my dream wedding ever since! Now, my mother still gives me strife about going against her wishes when I married him, but she admits that he is a good man and that she is so glad that he turned out to be such a good husband for me. So I am sure my family will now have no quams about attending our 10th anniversary vow renewal I have so many details already figured out... Every time he goes on deployment, I use my spare time to do research and plan out what my dream wedding will be to keep myself from getting lonely... So far I want a midsummer night's dream meets happily ever after theme. So far I'm hoping for an outside ceremony under a big beautiful tree (right now I am having huge trouble finding a good venue).... lots of friends and loved ones in the wedding party... Pastel colors... walking down the aisle to Fairytale by Enya... a Faerie Flame candle for our unity candle... a "wishing" tree instead of a guest book... a big fairy feast with all sorts of enchanting foods, and English country dancing at the reception... a scrapbook with wedding photos of us, our parents, grandparents and great grandparents for people to look through... Moss runners, mismatch colored glasses with candles, gormet lollipops, or flowers in them, and apothecary jars with flowers submerged in water in them for the tables... "firefly" jars around the dance floor... Lily of the valley, Lilacs, forget-me-nots, Columbines, Grape Hyacinth, Delphinium, Hydrangea, Bleeding Hearts (NO carnations)... A new ring to replace the gorgeous one that he proposed to me with (and I feel so guilty about losing shortly after the wedding)... And so much more! When my husband and I met, we were both going through military training. I had been very sheltered growing up… sheltered to the extent that my mother had already made plans for me to marry a family friend (who had shown no interest in me at all… the whole arrangement had only been between my mother and his.) SO, when I fell head over heels for my dream guy (literally… I had a dream about him – his face exactly – back when I was about 10 or 11), there was a whole lot of strife from my family. When I graduated from my training before he did from his, I went to my first duty station, hoping that he would end up close by… He didn’t… BUT before he left to go overseas, he made it a point to go, by himself (since I couldn’t get approved for leave), to meet my family and stay with them for a couple weeks, trying to make a good impression. All to no avail… but, he still asked my father for my hand in marriage. Not really getting an answer, and not daring to ask my mother, he decided to propose anyway…
Shortly after our engagement, he was informed that he would be getting sent to Iraq on deployment. I was scared. It was hard enough having a fiance’ across the ocean, I didn’t want to know what it would be like having one in a war zone. So, in spite of my mother’s arguing, and friends of the family (most of whom I hadn’t heard from in years) calling to tell me what a huge mistake I was making, I told him to take leave, fly out to meet me, and we would go to where his parents lived and get married. There was no way I was going to let him go to Iraq without being married to me! (Not very logical, but since when does love have anything to do with logic?) So he flew out.
I called my family to give them one last chance to be a part of our special day, but they refused. So he and I drove 18 hours to his parents to get married there… His mother mostly did the planning for me… we got married in a bed and breakfast… the honeymoon suite was gorgeous! the chaple where the ceremony took place? Not so much… I didn’t get any say in any of it… Everything was very tacky. My mother in law even wore hot pink, baggy pantaloons to the event! And the part I hated the most was the fact that I had sprained my ankle pretty badly the week before, and because I had no time or money to alter the dress, I had to wear 5 inch heels (I can’t walk in heels with a good ankle… forget about a sprained one!) So my father in law was the only one available to walk me down the aisle. Before the ceremony, I pulled the minister aside, and begged him NOT to ask who gives me away because my father wasn’t there, and, since I had only met him 3 days prior, I really didn’t feel my father in law had any right to give me away… But… I’m sure you guessed it… As soon as we got to the alter, the minister asked the question, and my father in law’s natural response was “Her mother and I do.” *sigh* The only thing I could think at that moment was “If my mother were here right now, and heard you say that, she would be ringing your neck!”
After the ceremony, we all headed back to his parent’s house… Along the way he, his sister and I stopped at a local burrito place and picked up food for everyone. When we got to his parent’s we all sat around the living room eating burritos and trying not to breathe in too much of my father in law’s cigarette smoke, then cut into a walmart sheet cake from the “day old” discount shelf in the bakery section.

And that was my wedding day… The magical day I had been dreaming of since I was 5 years old…

I cried when my husband and I were alone after the ceremony… When he asked me what was wrong, I had to tell him honestly: “It’s supposed the be the most wonderful day of my life! And the only good thing I got from this whole day is you!” That’s when he promised me that one day, for a milestone anniversary, he would give me the wedding of my dreams. A wedding where all my friends and family are around to join in the celebration. One where my father walks me down the aisle, and where the girls (including my mother in law) are wearing pretty dresses, and where naked babies with wings and arrows and ugly crucifixes are NOT allowed!

So I have been planning my dream wedding ever since!

Now, my mother still gives me strife about going against her wishes when I married him, but she admits that he is a good man and that she is so glad that he turned out to be such a good husband for me. So I am sure my family will now have no quams about attending our 10th anniversary vow renewal

I have so many details already figured out… Every time he goes on deployment, I use my spare time to do research and plan out what my dream wedding will be to keep myself from getting lonely…

So far I want a midsummer night’s dream meets happily ever after theme. So far I’m hoping for an outside ceremony under a big beautiful tree (right now I am having huge trouble finding a good venue)…. lots of friends and loved ones in the wedding party… Pastel colors… walking down the aisle to Fairytale by Enya… a Faerie Flame candle for our unity candle… a “wishing” tree instead of a guest book… a big fairy feast with all sorts of enchanting foods, and English country dancing at the reception… a scrapbook with wedding photos of us, our parents, grandparents and great grandparents for people to look through… Moss runners, mismatch colored glasses with candles, gormet lollipops, or flowers in them, and apothecary jars with flowers submerged in water in them for the tables… “firefly” jars around the dance floor… Lily of the valley, Lilacs, forget-me-nots, Columbines, Grape Hyacinth, Delphinium, Hydrangea, Bleeding Hearts (NO carnations)… A new ring to replace the gorgeous one that he proposed to me with (and I feel so guilty about losing shortly after the wedding)… And so much more!

]]> Comment on Jim McCann by Clarice E. Hutchings http://www.celebrations.com/i-do-over/?p=73#comment-204 Clarice E. Hutchings Sun, 22 Jan 2012 22:02:31 +0000 http://www.celebrations.com/i-do-over/?p=73#comment-204 I need a Do-Over. My husband and I got married in the court-house in the small town of Lexington, Missouri (my home town). (It's is about 45 minutes east of KCMO.) We got married after being pregnant for 4 months at the advisement of friends and co-workers. I taught at an elementary school in the same town. People suspected that this was the best move for us do to the "morality" of my exposure to small children in the district. Not wanting to send the kids the "wrong" message and to appease "parents who might not take this well" we left my workplace on December 10, 1999 and headed up to the courthouse to seal the deal. My principal (a woman) was Mike's best man, my friend stood in as maid of honor and took pictures with our local newspapers camera as she was working there at the time. I even wore a maternity outfit that belonged to someone I worked with who had a baby the year prior. No honeymoon either. Just a quick trip to a restaurant in town and home to bed:( Needless to say, our plan to have a small wedding after our daughter was born (not the wedding of my dreams mind you) was derailed and eventually forgotten (not really). Mike and I talk often about wanting a Do-Over. However, after having three daughters and twelve years of nonstop chaos that comes along with raising a family, it just isn't in the cards due to a lack of time as well as finances. I need a Do-Over. My husband and I got married in the court-house in the small town of Lexington, Missouri (my home town). (It’s is about 45 minutes east of KCMO.) We got married after being pregnant for 4 months at the advisement of friends and co-workers. I taught at an elementary school in the same town. People suspected that this was the best move for us do to the “morality” of my exposure to small children in the district. Not wanting to send the kids the “wrong” message and to appease “parents who might not take this well” we left my workplace on December 10, 1999 and headed up to the courthouse to seal the deal. My principal (a woman) was Mike’s best man, my friend stood in as maid of honor and took pictures with our local newspapers camera as she was working there at the time. I even wore a maternity outfit that belonged to someone I worked with who had a baby the year prior. No honeymoon either. Just a quick trip to a restaurant in town and home to bed:(

Needless to say, our plan to have a small wedding after our daughter was born (not the wedding of my dreams mind you) was derailed and eventually forgotten (not really). Mike and I talk often about wanting a Do-Over. However, after having three daughters and twelve years of nonstop chaos that comes along with raising a family, it just isn’t in the cards due to a lack of time as well as finances.

]]> Comment on Share Your Story by claudia munoz http://www.celebrations.com/i-do-over/?page_id=194#comment-203 claudia munoz Sun, 22 Jan 2012 20:36:31 +0000 http://www.celebrations.com/i-do-over/?page_id=194#comment-203 1year ago me and my husband got married through civil, we were on a tight budget so we got married and celebrated in a backyard. One week before my wedding I got an email saying my dress wasn't going to arrive on time, so I decided to cancel and go buy one. That week seemed to go on with bad news; my husbands step-dad decided to turn a gun on himself and shot himself in the head for personal reasons. Regardless we kept on with the planning, the day arrived and since we live in laredo its one of the most hottest place on earth everyone was sweating. We got married,but his mom wasn't there due to her boyfriend being dead. Later she arrived with along with family members all dressed in black. She was still mourning over him. She decided to leave and on her way out she fainted, had evryone run over to her had the ambulance called to check her out. Might sound disrespectful but he rapped a young lady and he deserved what he did to himself and much more. I just wish we could redo our wedding and have nothing but happy and wonderful moments remembered. Since we do have two kids and only him working we don't have the time and money to make it happen. Thank you for taking your time to read our story. 1year ago me and my husband got married through civil, we were on a tight budget so we got married and celebrated in a backyard. One week before my wedding I got an email saying my dress wasn’t going to arrive on time, so I decided to cancel and go buy one. That week seemed to go on with bad news; my husbands step-dad decided to turn a gun on himself and shot himself in the head for personal reasons. Regardless we kept on with the planning, the day arrived and since we live in laredo its one of the most hottest place on earth everyone was sweating. We got married,but his mom wasn’t there due to her boyfriend being dead. Later she arrived with along with family members all dressed in black. She was still mourning over him. She decided to leave and on her way out she fainted, had evryone run over to her had the ambulance called to check her out. Might sound disrespectful but he rapped a young lady and he deserved what he did to himself and much more. I just wish we could redo our wedding and have nothing but happy and wonderful moments remembered. Since we do have two kids and only him working we don’t have the time and money to make it happen. Thank you for taking your time to read our story.

]]> Comment on Share Your Story by Sharon Parham http://www.celebrations.com/i-do-over/?page_id=194#comment-202 Sharon Parham Sun, 22 Jan 2012 17:23:30 +0000 http://www.celebrations.com/i-do-over/?page_id=194#comment-202 My husband and I had been together for almost 16 years with three children before we agree to get married. We tried to decide on a date so we both would rememeber. So we had two dates in mind which was 11-11-11 and 9-10-11 but I didn't like 9-10-11 and 11-11-11 were my twin son birthday. So we just decide just do it. So we went to the courts and got married on 3-17-11 which is St. Patricks Day. Because I love the color green. We got to the court and everything was great. So after the court I said so whats next, my newly husband says to me I have to go to work. I could not belivie it. So I go to our local DMV to change my last name to my newly last name. I spend the rest of the day telling everybody we were married and change our name on facebook. When my newly husband got home we went out to dinner and my sister bought us a cake and that was the end of our celebration. We were trying to have a real wedding this year but money is so tight that we are unable to do it. My husband and I had been together for almost 16 years with three children before we agree to get married. We tried to decide on a date so we both would rememeber. So we had two dates in mind which was 11-11-11 and 9-10-11 but I didn’t like 9-10-11 and 11-11-11 were my twin son birthday. So we just decide just do it. So we went to the courts and got married on 3-17-11 which is St. Patricks Day. Because I love the color green. We got to the court and everything was great. So after the court I said so whats next, my newly husband says to me I have to go to work. I could not belivie it. So I go to our local DMV to change my last name to my newly last name. I spend the rest of the day telling everybody we were married and change our name on facebook. When my newly husband got home we went out to dinner and my sister bought us a cake and that was the end of our celebration. We were trying to have a real wedding this year but money is so tight that we are unable to do it.

]]> Comment on Share Your Story by Tricia Peterson http://www.celebrations.com/i-do-over/?page_id=194#comment-196 Tricia Peterson Mon, 16 Jan 2012 01:28:25 +0000 http://www.celebrations.com/i-do-over/?page_id=194#comment-196 Me and my husband got married back in 09. we were both so young and had a beautiful daughter together we figured it would be the thing to do. after planning and him losing his job we never got the chance to have our wedding until October 2009. It was the most depressing wedding ever. i had no say in the planning except what i wore. it caused so much stress i ended up arguing with my mom which then did not show to my wedding. it was in my husbands aunts back yard my maid of honor was his sister... everything was all about them! i hated it i wanted to run away and not look back. The sun was in my eyes we couldnt even look at eachother because of it. It was so hot and my dress was suppose to be my prom dress back in high school. my cake which my mother in law made. wasnt even enough to feed all of us we had to cut it so small for everyone to get some. i had no honeymoon we just stayed the night in a hotelroom and didnt even use it as our honeymoon. Shortly after the wedding we didnt even feel married it was the same feeling as when we were engaged or even dating. I pray that someday i can just have the wedding i wanted in the first place and not have my in laws incharge of it. maybe someone who knows what they are doing. I dont talk about my wedding at all this is the first time i have told the story since the wedding happened. It was the most upsetting day of my life and they say it was suppose to be the happiest. not much more to the story unless i give the littest details which im sure you guys dont want to hear. They say it was a wedding Thx for reading Tricia Me and my husband got married back in 09. we were both so young and had a beautiful daughter together we figured it would be the thing to do. after planning and him losing his job we never got the chance to have our wedding until October 2009. It was the most depressing wedding ever. i had no say in the planning except what i wore. it caused so much stress i ended up arguing with my mom which then did not show to my wedding. it was in my husbands aunts back yard my maid of honor was his sister… everything was all about them! i hated it i wanted to run away and not look back. The sun was in my eyes we couldnt even look at eachother because of it. It was so hot and my dress was suppose to be my prom dress back in high school. my cake which my mother in law made. wasnt even enough to feed all of us we had to cut it so small for everyone to get some. i had no honeymoon we just stayed the night in a hotelroom and didnt even use it as our honeymoon. Shortly after the wedding we didnt even feel married it was the same feeling as when we were engaged or even dating. I pray that someday i can just have the wedding i wanted in the first place and not have my in laws incharge of it. maybe someone who knows what they are doing. I dont talk about my wedding at all this is the first time i have told the story since the wedding happened. It was the most upsetting day of my life and they say it was suppose to be the happiest.
not much more to the story unless i give the littest details which im sure you guys dont want to hear.
They say it was a wedding
Thx for reading
Tricia

]]> Comment on Share Your Wedding Story by Ashli Cox http://www.celebrations.com/i-do-over/?p=198#comment-195 Ashli Cox Mon, 16 Jan 2012 01:10:41 +0000 http://www.celebrations.com/i-do-over/?p=198#comment-195 Not such a fairytale wedding. My first marriage my wedding was done by my mom so when my current husband asked me to marry him I knew I wanted to have the wedding I didn't get the first time. Well sadly I didn't get it this time either. Since it was my second wedding I had to pay for everything myself. Since our budget was no existent being a single mom I had to do everything myself. My dress was a prom dress that my grandmother bought me on sale. I had no bridesmaids and only 30 guests in my aunt's living room. My brother was in hair school so to save money I had him highlight my hair a day before the ceremony well he dyed it yellow thankful they were able to kinda fix it. My mom again rushed us so I didn't get to walk into my music I walked into somewhere over the rainbow which was the prelude music. It then went from bad to worse. I was trying to diet for the wedding I spent our wedding night sick from the diet pills. If anything I fell that my husband should be given a do over. Our wedding was his first and was far from what he wanted, but all we could afford. We never had a first dance. On top of that we had a friend do our pictures if anything it would be nice to have great pictures. We recently did family pictures and finally have some of just us. We couldn't afford engagement pictures, either. I work with brides everyday. I always tell them the horror stories from both of my weddings so that they can learn from my mistakes, and have a perfect day. Sometimes I just wish my day would have been the fairytale I had always envisioned. Not such a fairytale wedding. My first marriage my wedding was done by my mom so when my current husband asked me to marry him I knew I wanted to have the wedding I didn’t get the first time. Well sadly I didn’t get it this time either. Since it was my second wedding I had to pay for everything myself. Since our budget was no existent being a single mom I had to do everything myself. My dress was a prom dress that my grandmother bought me on sale. I had no bridesmaids and only 30 guests in my aunt’s living room. My brother was in hair school so to save money I had him highlight my hair a day before the ceremony well he dyed it yellow thankful they were able to kinda fix it. My mom again rushed us so I didn’t get to walk into my music I walked into somewhere over the rainbow which was the prelude music. It then went from bad to worse. I was trying to diet for the wedding I spent our wedding night sick from the diet pills. If anything I fell that my husband should be given a do over. Our wedding was his first and was far from what he wanted, but all we could afford. We never had a first dance. On top of that we had a friend do our pictures if anything it would be nice to have great pictures. We recently did family pictures and finally have some of just us. We couldn’t afford engagement pictures, either. I work with brides everyday. I always tell them the horror stories from both of my weddings so that they can learn from my mistakes, and have a perfect day. Sometimes I just wish my day would have been the fairytale I had always envisioned.

]]> Comment on About by Angela Hogan http://www.celebrations.com/i-do-over/?page_id=23#comment-188 Angela Hogan Tue, 10 Jan 2012 15:10:13 +0000 http://www.celebrations.com/i-do-over/?page_id=23#comment-188 If the two of you are living in Florida, I would be happy to officiate your do over marriage at no cost to you. I''m also a freelance writer and I write custom ceremonies that include things which a stranger might miss. I myself, had a less than stellar wedding experience 25 years ago and we're still married but I still long for that special day, so I completely understand. Best of luck to you both and please try and remember that its the marriage, not the ceremony that really matters!! Angie If the two of you are living in Florida, I would be happy to officiate your do over marriage at no cost to you. I”m also a freelance writer and I write custom ceremonies that include things which a stranger might miss. I myself, had a less than stellar wedding experience 25 years ago and we’re still married but I still long for that special day, so I completely understand.
Best of luck to you both and please try and remember that its the marriage, not the ceremony that really matters!!
Angie

]]> Comment on Share Your Story by Teresa http://www.celebrations.com/i-do-over/?page_id=194#comment-187 Teresa Mon, 09 Jan 2012 22:44:24 +0000 http://www.celebrations.com/i-do-over/?page_id=194#comment-187 We had 3 weeks to plan our wedding! We culdn't find a venue, so we got married in a public park, there were peole walking through the entire time. We didn't have actual bridesmaids dresses so they all wore something they found in their closet. My mother bought me a wedding dress, but it didn't fit me, so she altered it herself and it looked awful and came undone halfway through the reception. My father couldn't make it to the wedding so my grandfather walked me down the aisle and kept making smart comments through the whole wedding. We didn't have a reception location so we had it in my mothers dirt backyard. The cake was leaning and half the music on my wedding list didn't play. It was at night and my aunt did the pictures, so they all came out very dark. There was no wine or cocktail hour, and people were walking around with bottles of beer through the entire wedding. We now have 2 beautiful children that have gotten us through our darkest times and would love to share such a joyous occassion with them. We would love a do-over so we have something we can look back upon and smile. Please consider me for a do-over, it would be greatly apreciated. Thank you for reading our story. We had 3 weeks to plan our wedding! We culdn’t find a venue, so we got married in a public park, there were peole walking through the entire time. We didn’t have actual bridesmaids dresses so they all wore something they found in their closet. My mother bought me a wedding dress, but it didn’t fit me, so she altered it herself and it looked awful and came undone halfway through the reception. My father couldn’t make it to the wedding so my grandfather walked me down the aisle and kept making smart comments through the whole wedding. We didn’t have a reception location so we had it in my mothers dirt backyard. The cake was leaning and half the music on my wedding list didn’t play. It was at night and my aunt did the pictures, so they all came out very dark. There was no wine or cocktail hour, and people were walking around with bottles of beer through the entire wedding. We now have 2 beautiful children that have gotten us through our darkest times and would love to share such a joyous occassion with them. We would love a do-over so we have something we can look back upon and smile. Please consider me for a do-over, it would be greatly apreciated. Thank you for reading our story.

]]> Comment on Share Your Story by melissa williams-mosley http://www.celebrations.com/i-do-over/?page_id=194#comment-185 melissa williams-mosley Sat, 07 Jan 2012 06:31:49 +0000 http://www.celebrations.com/i-do-over/?page_id=194#comment-185 My husband and I was married November 26, 2011. The day should have been a joyous occasion but it was a disaster! My sister and I got into a great argument and almost came to blows if my husband and brother did not intervene. My dad walked me down the Aisle but was not feeling well because he is a diabetic and did not attend the reception therefore, I never had the opportunity to have a father/daughter dance. I cried at the alter not because I was happy because I invited 150 guest and only 20 attended. Grant it it is not easy to plan an out of town wedding and rely on people who say they love you; it is really sad how others jeaoulsy can affect someone's joy. My DJ showed up 4 hours late, the cake was not cut, the caterer was was late with setting up the food so my guest sat around for 3 hours just chatting. My sister did not attempt to help me get dressed and dropped out of the wedding at the last moment because of jealousy. I had to find a new Reverend to officiate the ceremony because someone past away at my mothers church and her Pastor decided to do the funeral when he knew well in advance and chose not to let another of his ministers do the funeral. I did not have a limo and ended up paying for half of my girls dresses and still have not been reimbursed and I did not have a professional photographer so my pictures are not great. My wedding day was a disaster and when I see wedding on TV it brings great sadness to my heart and the tears began to flow. Me and my husband Are very happily married my family adores him. He is hurt because no one from his family attended our wedding because thy could not afford to travel from detroit to Rochester, ny. I ended up donating the cake/food to the open door mission the very next day and no we did not have an honeymoon. My husband and I was married November 26, 2011. The day should have been a joyous occasion but it was a disaster! My sister and I got into a great argument and almost came to blows if my husband and brother did not intervene. My dad walked me down the Aisle but was not feeling well because he is a diabetic and did not attend the reception therefore, I never had the opportunity to have a father/daughter dance. I cried at the alter not because I was happy because I invited 150 guest and only 20 attended. Grant it it is not easy to plan an out of town wedding and rely on people who say they love you; it is really sad how others jeaoulsy can affect someone’s joy. My DJ showed up 4 hours late, the cake was not cut, the caterer was was late with setting up the food so my guest sat around for 3 hours just chatting. My sister did not attempt to help me get dressed and dropped out of the wedding at the last moment because of jealousy. I had to find a new Reverend to officiate the ceremony because someone past away at my mothers church and her Pastor decided to do the funeral when he knew well in advance and chose not to let another of his ministers do the funeral. I did not have a limo and ended up paying for half of my girls dresses and still have not been reimbursed and I did not have a professional photographer so my pictures are not great. My wedding day was a disaster and when I see wedding on TV it brings great sadness to my heart and the tears began to flow. Me and my husband Are very happily married my family adores him. He is hurt because no one from his family attended our wedding because thy could not afford to travel from detroit to Rochester, ny. I ended up donating the cake/food to the open door mission the very next day and no we did not have an honeymoon.

]]> Comment on Share Your Story by Brandy Kremer http://www.celebrations.com/i-do-over/?page_id=194#comment-171 Brandy Kremer Fri, 30 Dec 2011 00:25:48 +0000 http://www.celebrations.com/i-do-over/?page_id=194#comment-171 Hi my name is Brandy Kremer and I wanted to share my story. April 7th, 2001 Me and my husband Eric were married and let me tell you it was by no means the wedding I imagined growing up and it crushed my moms wedding dreams for me as well. to begin I was 4 months pregnant with my 1st child we got married in the night club were we worked (during the day before opening) our friends did their best to decorate it and tried with a hundred candles to get the smell of ciggarettes and other smells to go away but it just didn't work so I was so embarrassed. My dress wasn't himmed up right so I kept stepping on the dress which ripped :( we had to hurry the reception which was a meat and cheese tray and beverages so they could clean up before they opened for work. I had gorgeous wedding pictures done but I couldn't even afford 1 so I have none from that day. The whole wedding was so embarrassing that I feel after 10 years together it ways on us that our start wasn't like we had wanted oh and a honey moon wasn't even possible my husband had to go back to work the next day since we had a baby on its way. We have had some rough patches in our marriage with now 3 kids but our love has always got us through we just would love to have a dream wedding just something we can look back on and smile and not be emarrassed from. Thank you for taking the time to read my story and if you even consider me it would be a prayer answered! Hi my name is Brandy Kremer and I wanted to share my story. April 7th, 2001 Me and my husband Eric were married and let me tell you it was by no means the wedding I imagined growing up and it crushed my moms wedding dreams for me as well. to begin I was 4 months pregnant with my 1st child we got married in the night club were we worked (during the day before opening) our friends did their best to decorate it and tried with a hundred candles to get the smell of ciggarettes and other smells to go away but it just didn’t work so I was so embarrassed. My dress wasn’t himmed up right so I kept stepping on the dress which ripped :( we had to hurry the reception which was a meat and cheese tray and beverages so they could clean up before they opened for work. I had gorgeous wedding pictures done but I couldn’t even afford 1 so I have none from that day. The whole wedding was so embarrassing that I feel after 10 years together it ways on us that our start wasn’t like we had wanted oh and a honey moon wasn’t even possible my husband had to go back to work the next day since we had a baby on its way. We have had some rough patches in our marriage with now 3 kids but our love has always got us through we just would love to have a dream wedding just something we can look back on and smile and not be emarrassed from. Thank you for taking the time to read my story and if you even consider me it would be a prayer answered!

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